The shock of losing a loved one can really do a number to your mental health and your mood. To try to alleviate a depressive type of mood, exercise can be a real benefit. Seratonin is one of the most important chemicals in the body that dictates your mood. Exercise is a natural and safe way to increase seratonin levels in your body, releasing those good feeling endorphins. The best exercises that help to release seratonin in the body are cardio exercises such as walking, running, bicycling and swimming. Taking a 30 minute walk or run, six times a day can help you to generate optimal seratonin synthesis in your body and help to put you in a better mood.
2. Find a way to express your feelings
There are many ways to express your feelings. Find the one that you feel MOST COMFORTABLE with and use it to your advantage. You can talk about your feelings with a confidant – or even someone anonymous that can be a listening ear (most likely online). Another suggestion would be to write out your feelings. After I got over the shock of losing my father, I actually used this tool to deal with my grief, which I’ll talk about it another post. Guess what? It is okay to cry. Cry it all out. Get yourself in a private room and let it all out. Lastly, release all of that energy on a punching bag, if you have to do. To be honest, shock can turn into aggression, rather quickly. Don’t hold that in, let it out.
3. Create to-do lists.
Although life might have stopped dead in its tracks for you – for many others it hasn’t, and for some (unfortunately) they don’t care. Bills still need to be paid. Work still needs to get done. Sometimes you can find yourself in a daze when dealing with shock. If you create to-do lists you can help yourself to actually carry on with life while dealing with shock. To-do lists can guide you into taking care of your priorities that need to be done.
4. Ask for help.
Please, please, please do not be afraid to ask for help. You may have friends and loved ones that do not know how to reach out to you, what to say, how to help – they need you to let them know what they can do for them. Some may feel that it would be insensitive to approach. If you go to your friends and loved ones and ask for help – I’m sure they would love to help you out in whatever way that they can.
5. Embrace the pain.
Last, but not least, embrace the pain. Many times people try to encourage you by telling you to stay strong, or that it is okay because they are not suffering anymore. Though these may be true and of use – it can discourage you from embracing reality and confronting your pain in the loss of your loved one. So embrace it. The sooner you confront your pain, the quicker you will be able to get over the initial shock and go through your grieving process.
I hope this helps you, or someone you know in dealing with the shock of losing a loved one.