Breakups can be the absolute worst. I, for one, experienced that first hand not too long ago. They can make you feel all types of feelings: sadness, loneliness, unworthiness, loveless and more. We've all been there right? I know I'm not the only one!
Then you have those amazing true friends and family members that keep you standing, they lift your head up high. They listen to you re-count where things went wrong, where you could have done better - all the should'a could'a woulda's. They tell you over and over that you are better off without them and that you deserve better.
Finally, one day, you wake up. You realize that everything that your loved ones have been saying all along is truth. The blinders are turned off. You finally see yourself for who you truly are: an amazing woman with so much going for herself, a confident woman that can do bad all by herself, a brave dame that is ready to take the world by storm, a beautiful woman who realizes her worth.
Get it girl!! Do your thang you independent woman you!
Out of no where he sweeps you off your feet. You know who I'm talking about! The man that is everything your ex wasn't. The man that loves you just the way you are. The one who respects you for who you are and what you value. The man who supports you in all of your crazy dreams and goals. And suddenly, you completely forget about that amazing, confident, brave and beautiful woman. Not intentionally - but wow! You start to think, "How could someone accept me with all my flaws? My upper lip hair is so embarrassing? Oh my gosh, that scar is so ugly!" And, "How can someone be so supportive of little 'ol me?"
As Sahaj Kohli said it so perfectly, "The fact that someone else loves you, doesn't rescue you from the project of loving yourself."
Ding ding ding ding ding!! Did the light bulb just go off? It did for me when I read that on my IG feed last night! I just wanted to encourage you lovelies - that while actively being loved by someone else is truly an amazing feeling; don't get lost in it! Remember to always love yourself first, because if not - then you have no love to give back to those that love you!
To all of my BRAVE DAMES out there, remember to keep doing you girl! Keep working on you and investing in your own self-love and self-worth :-)!