The Brave Dame: Controlling Your Tongue

Thursday, April 3, 2014

As women we LOVE to talk.  Some of us can talk to anyone.  Pick a person off the street and we could dish out our entire life story.  Others?  We are more comfortable with friends and acquaintances, while some women are only prone to share life with a few close people.  Regardless, we all LOVE to talk and communicate.

Sometimes that mouth of ours that we've been blessed with can get us into trouble.  Sometimes we congratulate another woman on their pregnancy and bite our tongues really hard when we find out the person is not pregnant.  Maybe we've occasionally let a curse word slip out when we're in a professional setting.  And once in a while we say things out of vengeance and hurt the ones that we love the most.

As women who are trying every day to love ourselves more and more, it is important to know the power of our words and harness that power for good.  Looking at yourself from the outside, would you love you?  The way that we speak truly reflects our character and our heart’s attitude.

Earlier in March, my pastor spoke on unity and gave us these five bullet points on unity.  I feel that these questions translate well into controlling our tongue.  When we talk with others keep this in mind:
  • Am I being humble or prideful?
  • Am I being gentle or domineering?
  • Am I being patient or edgy?
  • Am I showing grace or being judgemental?
  • Am I being a peacemaker or troublemaker?
A thought provoking point that my pastor pointed out was that sometimes you have to initiate conflict to bring peace.  Sometimes we have to bring up situations and talk them out in order to have peace on both ends.  However, when we do need to initiate conflict in order to resolve a situation, it’s important that we do it in a gentle way and gracefully.  Using questions like, “Hey, do you have a minute to talk?” or “May I have a moment of your time? I would like to share something that’s been on my heart.”  Questions like that help to “soften the blow” so to speak, and hopefully create an open atmosphere where offense isn’t taken.

It is so easy to lash out on someone, or to be (and stay) mad, but really, what does that do for you and your soul?  Not much!  Doesn’t get you anywhere higher in life.  So, remember!  Be humble, gentle, patient and graceful always!  Take the higher road and be the better person, your spirit and soul with thank you for it!

PS: Here are some Bible verses for you to use as a reference: 1 Peter 5:5, Proverbs 15:1, Proverbs 25:15, Proverbs 16:32, Colossians 3:13, Matthew 5:9

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  1. Great post! Those five questions are great ones to keep in mind when speaking.

  2. Yes - I have to practice this!! The message was really convicting for me in a good way.


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